Kevin on Adoption: Reflections on Parenting and Support Gaps Through International Adoption

EPISODE 22: Adoption from Both Sides — with My Fiancé Kevin

This episode felt especially close to my heart because I sat down with my fiancé, Kevin, to talk about adoption from both sides—his perspective as an adoptive father of two, and mine as an adoptee. We kept it honest, real, and grounded in what adoption actually looks like over time, not just the version people like to post online.

We talked about:

• The “adoption is saving children” narrative and why Kevin pushes back on it

• Infertility and how fear can shape adoption decisions

• Bringing our daughter home from China and our son home from Thailand

• How every adoption journey is different, even within the same family

• The lack of agency support, post-adoption resources, and trauma education

• Why therapy and honest conversations should be part of every adoption process

• The everyday realities adoptive families face, including intrusive questions and identity struggles

This episode is about growth, empathy, and staying teachable. Adoption can hold heartbreak and healing at the same time, and we need more honest spaces for people to process it all.

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